I wanted to come to you this week and share with you some of the 5 most helpful things I encourage mamas to try when their mood is low or they are feeling depressed. These are great to use even if you don't have an official diagnosis of depression - we all have our down days. Let's dive in!
1. Go Outside. There is something so special, so calming about being out in nature. Go to the park. Go for a walk around the block. If that all feels too much, just take off your shoes and put your feet in the grass for a bit. get some fresh air. It really helps.
2. Spend Time With A Friend. When you are struggling with depression or just having a down day, you may feel that it's your instinct to isolate yourself and be alone. Just because you feel this way, doesn't mean it's the best thing for you. Invite your friend over. Do a video chat. Go meet together at a park. Do something with someone you're close too and it will almost always lift your mood.
3. Have A Good Cry. When we have a good cry, we release endorphins in our body. It makes us feel good. Crying can be a great way to release what you've been holding in, even if it's just frustration that you aren't feeling your best. You don't have to have it all together all the time mama.
4. Share How You're Feeling With Someone. Whether it's a friend, a partner, a family member - just pick someone. When we keep things inside and don't share it with others we feel so isolated and alone. Sharing your experience with someone else can help so much, you may even find they've been struggling too. Taking the chance to be open and honest creates true intimacy.
5. Get Yourself Ready For The Day, Even If You Don't Want To. Spending time taking a hot shower, putting on some clothes, and maybe even doing your makeup can be a huge boost for your mood. Just get started and you will most likely feel a bit more motivated to keep going. How we take care of ourselves has a huge impact on how we feel.
As always mamas - if you are having thoughts that scare you or you're feeling like your family would be better off without you - please don't just try one of the things above and hope things will get better. Please reach out for help. You can call a local crisis line, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room if you feel like you're unable to keep yourself safe. If you feel safe, but just know you don't like how you're feeling and want to feel better counseling can be a great option. If you're in Oklahoma, I'd be happy to work with you. To learn more about my individual and group counseling services click on the links below.
Group Counseling - a new group is starting Saturday, November 7th, 2020.
You're not alone. I'm here for you mama,
Kylee Nelson, LMFT
CEO and Lead Therapist of Fulfilled Motherhood Counseling