I was reminded of this important truth last night as I was getting my first moments of silence and drinking a warm cup of Natural Calm (basically a warm cup of 'tea' made up of magnesium) - each day does not require that we accomplish some big, audacious goal. The success of the day doesn't need to be measured with how much laundry was done, how many things you got done for the business or how many Pinterest crafts you completed with your children. Some days survival is the main goal, and that's okay.
Recently my social media has been bombarded with posts encouraging me to use this extra time to learn a new hobby, to start a new eating plan, to catch up on all those books I've been meaning to read or to start the side hustle I've always dreamed of but never had the 'time' for.
My response to this has been - WHAT TIME???
If you are a mama of a newborn or a toddler you may be having a similar reaction. We are supposed to deal with the anxiety and changes of this pandemic, keep our...
Hey There Mamas!
I just wanted to reach out and share some tips that have helped me these past few days as I've felt myself begin to spiral into anxiety, panic, and unease about the unknown days ahead. Based on the news from other countries and other states it seems we could be headed for a temporary change in the way we live our daily lives. I, like I'm sure many of you, found myself glued to my cellphone and news articles for the past couple of days. I have not been calm. I've been less present with my son, less present with my husband, found less enjoyment in my weekend, and had no answers for what was to come.
Thankfully, with the help of my husband and a few friends posting some helpful things on Facebook amidst the chaos posts, I realized I was spiraling and needed to get myself out of it. I needed to find my calm again. Here are some tips that have helped me return to a calm state (at least for now) and I hope they can help you as well.
Hey There Mamas!
I wanted to write this blog post to give you an idea of what telehealth or online counseling (both terms are used interchangeably) is like. Counseling online is similar to counseling in the office, you get to talk with a therapist about things you're dealing with, problems you're having and ways to reach your goals. This is done through a secure platform online that keeps your data and your counseling sessions safe and encrypted. It's like a super-secure version of facetime or google hangouts. It looks like this picture below!
At Fulfilled Motherhood Counseling we use a program called Theranest. How it works is when you schedule a session you will receive an email that will have a link inside of it. At the time of your appointment, you click the link on your phone or your computer and a screen will pop up. This screen is where the video appointment will take place. If you choose to do phone sessions instead of video sessions we use a secure phone program called...
Those first few weeks and months after coming home from the hospital can feel like a blur. It can be hard to remember what happened within the last few hours, let alone the last week. Oftentimes during this blur, the first signs of postpartum depression can be missed. Other times even when you notice them and bring them up to your doctor you can be met with the statement; "That is just the baby blues".
The difference between the baby blues and postpartum depression is often overlooked. People will tell you that it's normal to feel sad, it's normal to feel tired and it's normal to feel overwhelmed. While some of this is normal, often women who are experiencing postpartum depression and could benefit from help are told what they are feeling is normal. Today, I want to share with you the differences so you can decide for yourself. Is it the baby blues or is it something more?
The baby blues are common within the first few days after birth, peak at around one week and taper...
As a new mother, you’ve probably noticed that taking care of yourself and a new baby at the same time is next to impossible. How are you supposed to make sure you are getting what you need to thrive when you are on call 24/7, responsible for keeping a new human being alive and happy?
It’s no wonder that so many new moms feel emotional and completely overwhelmed. You know you need a break, but then you feel guilty about even needing one.
It’s very okay to ask for help. And here are some ways you can do it:
Yes, you’re a mother now, but you are still an individual that has her own needs. Recognize that being a great mother has nothing to do with being a superhero. Never feel you have to go it alone. Be realistic and understand that everyone needs help now and then.
Stop trying to be the greatest mother who has ever lived and do everything by yourself. When a family member or friend asks how...
It’s a few days after you’ve given birth, the celebratory phone calls are still coming in all you feel is sadness all the way down to your gut. Although the emotions are unexpected and less than welcome, postpartum depression can be common among new mothers. Up to one in seven women experience PPD after their first child even though it might be the first episode of depression they’ve experienced in their life.
It’s important to remember how much the body changes during pregnancy and immediately after. Postpartum, a hormone imbalance can occur due to losing built up levels of progesterone right after birth, leaving high levels of estrogen and the mental and physical symptoms that accompany the imbalance. Previous experiences or diagnosis’ of depression can also be a risk factor that can lead to new episodes surfacing.
Aside from the physical risk factors of PPD forming, one of the biggest factors is that mothers are overwhelmed by the new challenges of...
Before you read further - I feel this topic needs a disclaimer. I support ALL MAMAS no matter how you feed or fed your infant. This is not one of those ‘breast is best’ posts where I am going to write about the all benefits of breastfeeding and shame mamas out there who weren’t able to breastfeed or heck, just didn’t want to. You were made to be the mom for your child, whatever way you feed (or fed) your baby is your decision and I support you.
Okay, so back to breastfeeding and self-care. I can only speak from my own breastfeeding experience with my son, but man it was not always sunshine and roses. Self-care (and the support from my husband, friends, and family) is what has kept us going. So, without further adieu, here are some self-care tips for breastfeeding mamas.
When you’re breastfeeding and holding an infant around the clock you can start to feel ‘touched out’. You start to...